hello!I am a bengali married to a Punjabi since 10 years.It was a love marriage with parents acceptance with lots of hardels.My husband is a shy type person.We were leaving in Kerala after marriage due to job purpose.Two years back we shifted to faridabad for his post graduation.I have left my job.No body to take care of kids,so I do stay at home and take care of job.Me and my husband are doctors.After shifting her my husband is always busy.He hardly spends time with me.One and half year back I got to see some photos of him with one of his female colleague(standing together)even though another female colleague was present in the same place,but no photos with her.Which I didn't like.About that matter we had lots of fights.He always told me there is nothing between them.He has no relation with anyone else.He only loves me.But whenever I hear that female's name I get irritated.If he goes out for lunch with his colleagues I get irritated if that female is present.we have 3 kids Many times I thought about divorce.Before I used to tell him to spend time with me.But now I don't even say anything remontic.I need help.

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hello!I am a bengali married to a Punjabi since 10 years.It was a love marriage with parents acceptance with lots of hardels.My husband is a shy type person.We  were leaving in Kerala after marriage due to job purpose.Two years back we shifted to faridabad for his post graduation.I have left my job.No body to take care of kids,so I do stay at home and take care of job.Me and my husband are doctors.After shifting her my husband is always busy.He hardly spends time with me.One and half year back I got to see some photos of him with one of his female colleague(standing together)even though another female colleague was present in the same place,but no photos with her.Which I didn't like.About that matter we had lots of fights.He always told me there is nothing between them.He has no relation with anyone else.He only loves me.But whenever I hear that female's name I get irritated.If he goes out for lunch with his colleagues I get irritated if that female is present.we have 3 kids Many times I thought about divorce.Before I used to tell him to spend time with me.But now I don't even say anything remontic.I need help.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I understand you're going through a tough time. Open communication is key; express your feelings to your husband without accusations. Discuss and set boundaries, like limiting interactions with colleagues outside work, and prioritize family time. Rebuilding trust is crucial—consider couples therapy. Plan regular date nights or family activities to strengthen your bond. Seek support from a therapist to process your emotions and strategies to cope with stress and insecurity. Take care of your mental and physical health by engaging in activities that make you happy. Reflect on the positive aspects of your relationship and the love that brought you together. If things don't improve, please come join me in a live session for a consultation. Stay strong

Anonymous · Answer

Thank you for reply.I am trying to adjust.If I say him what I don't like and what I want he says he doesn't want my irritating behaviour.He wants me to not demand anything.I feel lonely,used, disrespected.In the work place he is everyday spending time with his colleagues.Why is he not understanding me.What crime did I do? Whenever we talk the topic will be about kids or his colleagues or seniors.No communication about us.I feel there is no romance between us.Me being his wife can I not expect his time,love.By 10 years of marriage love is over.How can I trust him when he doesn't spend time with me.Doesnt do anything special for me.I feel I am not in his priority list.But everyday he takes out at least 30 minutes to talk to his mother.Even that much time he doesn't give me.Bit before he was not the same.Now he comes home, take rest,do study,eat,sleep,and repeat.So many times I told him I am having so much stress.I am getting psychological problems.

soudamini mohanty · Answer

Hi dear, I realising your problem but in my knowledge u should try to convince him in proper way because this is the matter of couple so shouldn't enter of third party if it may be good or bad so care for this and the matter cross limits take help of seniors

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