DrNikita_DSexologist

Hi Enna, Thankyou for sharing your concern. It's important for both of you to understand that enthusiastic consent for all sexual activities is the basics of a healthy sex life. Neither partner should feel pressurized to do this. If it is the 'romantic sex' that's become monotonous, i.e you are not turned on by it, you can have a conversation about experimenting with toys, fantasies, role playing and kinks. Maybe some changes in the routine will increase your libido (desire to have sex). If it's the frequency that troubling you, please talk to your partner and help him understand that it's not something you are enjoying, but rather are feeling pressurized into giving in because you don't want to ruin the moment. Have an honest, non-confrontational conversation and hear his thoughts. Maybe your partner feels he needs to 'convince' you to get in the mood. Tell him how it's affecting you.

4) Have an open honest communication with your partner & understand each other's preferences, fantasies, kinks and address any myths,insecurities you may have. Self pleasure is a great way to understand what works for you & also would help better communication regarding preferences with your partner. Lastly, have fun! Remember orgasms are not the end goal. As long as you are overall satisfied with your sex life (solo or partnered)It's okay if you don't have orgasm everytime. Having said that, if you have never experienced orgasms or have had too much difficulty reaching one for a prolonged time (6-8 months at a stretch)despite trying everything and its hampering your mental health, routine life and relationships, you could be having a female sexual dysfunction called as anorgasmia. Talk to your trusted sexologist/sex therapist. If you don't know where to find one, you can schedule your online consultation with non-judgemental and sex positive doctors at www.sassiest.in💜