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hello, i am a virgin and as usual i am also afraid for my first time, i dont have any partner right now but one of my friend is ready for physical intimitation, should i go for it, i want it and i dont also because i am confused and somewhere i feel that i should do it with my love only which i dont have right now, what should i do and what things need to be worried about for my first time and what is the good age to do it, can anyone suggest.
Sex is not for trial and error dear. It's a emotional need of any teenage or above person. You have such feelings when you meet someone special, those feelings will automatically take you to next step whenever it should happen. And about your so called friend, you are not a baby doll to try by him. Those who tell any girl be physical or we will break up are just using them for their physical need. Once they use you, they will throw you out of their life and you will be shattered into pieces. it's not like that,If you do not hurry, you will miss the train! Maybe he is not your man! Keep searching from heart, in coming future you will definitely get your prince. Till then just keep yourself sustained. So Don't hurry!
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hey , I am 21 years old and now I see my self to move forward physically with someone, but for that I dont know the hygiene of my body, i doubt myself when is see in the mirror i am a little fat girl so it is very difficult for me to say yes to someone for physical intimitation. can anyone give me some tips so that i can make my self more attractive and beautiful
Hi there! Hope you are doing well. I want to let you know that all bodies, no matter what shape, size and colour, are designed to experience pleasure! If you feel ready for sexual activity and if a partner is actively seeking it with you, then try not to hold yourself back. Do make sure you are being safe and hygienic. Use protection is you don’t feel ready for a pregnancy and to protect yourself from STIs Best of luck!
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hey guys, I am girl with a little fat body, I have darkness near my vagina, I don't know what to do, I was using clean and dry before some time due to rashes, is it darkness caused by clean and dry, can you give suggestions for how to get rid of it.
The color of your intimate area can be naturally darker for some people, and it's normal. Using intimate wash shouldn't usually make it darker, but some ingredients might affect it for some individuals. If you're worried, it's best to ask a doctor. But Recurrent infection induced rashes can also be followed by more darkening of this area. But in that case also you have to consult your doctor for this issue. Over hygiene/unhygien both are harmful for intimate area. Also to use one for infection, you should consult your doctor before starting. And if you don't have any infection, then it's better you avoid using intimate wash.
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Hallo Everyone.. I am Enna.. My Bf is too much horny. Everyday he is doing sex. and i love this bcz he is trying different type of sex but not horny. Always romantic sex. but i am tired and in night I am trying to tell him don't do but his romantic moment always stop me. please suggest me what I will do.. sometimes I am thinking to share my bf with my other girls friend bcz sometimes I am feeling tired.
It's important to have open communication with him. Doing sex daily is not bothering you, it's the way he want is. But you should tell him this by your own mouth dear. In any intimate relationship, you should consider the other partner's consent, preferences & requirements too. Otherwise in long run, you will loose interest in sex and also in your partner. Also ask him is their any specific reason? Any sexual problem he have? So he is doing only romance and don't help you reach arousal/orgasm? After he set you on fire, but doesn't do penetrative sex, it irritates you so much that gradually decreases your libido. Also Try to convince your partner to indulge in his hobbies & work to reduce his feelings. There are certain medical conditions like menia, schizophrenia or even in case of some brain tumors also abnormal increase in libido is seen. So also check for such possibilities. Go to a Sexologist with him and they can help you by counseling & or to some extent by giving medicines
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How to make your man cum with just your mouth and hands? I’ve tried but he never cums and I get tired then he has to finish himself
Hi! There is no right or wrong way or any full proof method of finishing someone with oral and hanjobs. Each man has his own unique style/techniques he prefers. Trick is to enjoy the moments & explore each other's pleasure zones instead of focusing on his climax. Have an open honest talk about what he likes. Here are some tips to get you started: 1)'Dirty talks' - some men love to hear what you would like to do to them or what you love about their body. Don't shy away from praising their skills too! 2)Ask him if how he likes to be touched. Experiment with pressure, angle, strokes. Encourage him to guide you as you explore. Mix in some edibles like whipped cream or chocolates to spice things up (just ensure he cleans it later to prevent infections) 3)Toys & props: Explore pleasure products like handcuffs, blindfolds, penis rings, strokers that add an element of fun while enhancing pleasure. 4)Explore Role plays, fantasies and kinks you would like to try out.
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My long-distance relationship seems off lately. How can I keep the spark strong when we're miles apart?
I'm in long distance relationship as well. You gotta enlighten your mood through your friends and things that make you happy. And then show that enlightenment in front of your boyfriend while you get a chance to talk to him. This'll definitely spark your relationship up.
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Am I possibly asexual? Despite not engaging in sexual activities for a while, I feel relieved and don't expect to. Why do healthcare providers sometimes react with alarm or skepticism when I mention my lack of sexual activity? Do others in the asexual community encounter similar attitudes from healthcare providers? How do they handle such situations? Is there a tendency for asexuality to be dismissed as an invalid sexual orientation?
A lot of people, including healthcare providers, are not educated on this topic. It might be a possibility that you are asexual and exploring your sexuality in a forum where you feel comfortable is what I encourage you to do! You can always seek out a queer affirmative therapist to help you figure out your sexuality!
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Hey everyone, looking for some advice from the seasoned pros in long-term relationships. If you've been sailing smoothly in the commitment sea, I'm curious – how do you maintain that special spark in the bedroom? Personal Story: Here's a glimpse into my world: My partner (let's call them Abhi) and I hit a phase where the passion seemed to dwindle a bit. No shame, it got us a tad concerned. Taking a cue from some insightful internet, we decided to shake things up. Turned our bedroom into a game zone, crafted a cheeky bucket list, and let me tell you, it did wonders! Now, I'm turning to you for some wisdom. What's your go-to method for keeping the flame burning?
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Is it safe to use sex toy's?
Yes it is, based on which toys you use and the maintenance of basic hygiene practices
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Hey! I am new to self-pleasure.I am surely progressing. I was unable to penetrate at first. But now that I am able to it does not give me please. It doesn't feel like anything even when I am turned on. I am unable to come. How can I find pleasure with fingers?
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🌸 Navigating Dyspareunia in Women: Unveiling the Impact of Pain during Sex🌸 Causes 🔄: Dyspareunia, affecting many women, stems from physical factors like infections, dryness, cramps, fibroids, cysts, lack of arousal, pelvic disease to psychological factors such as anxiety, vaginismus and even relationship trauma. Notably, in cultures like India, guilt and shame associated with tabooed nature of sex may exacerbate this condition, calling for a comprehensive approach. Statistics 📊: Studies reveal 10-20% of women experience dyspareunia, yet societal taboos contribute to underreporting. Breaking silence is crucial to destigmatize the condition and encourage women to prioritize their sexual health. Therapy as a Solution 🌈: In the face of dyspareunia, therapy offers promise. Approaches like cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) and psychosexual therapy unravel emotional aspects, providing coping mechanisms. In India, addressing guilt and shame becomes integral to holistic healing, empowering women to embrace their sexuality. Empowering Through Communication 🤝: Therapy becomes a platform for couples to navigate open conversations. In India, where cultural dynamics add complexity, therapists facilitate dialogues fostering empathy, intimacy, and joint efforts toward overcoming challenges, including guilt and shame. Pain assessment, diagnosis of underlying physical disorders, pelvic floor therapy, etc can all help in many ways. In addition to professional help, adding more lubrication to prevent friction, increasing foreplay time, connecting with your partner to put them at ease and increase arousal, trying positions that work and communicating with your partner at every step of the way becomes important in changing sex from being painful to pleasurable 🌸
I am suffering from vaginismous from really long (2 +years to be precise) I'm 25 now and still a virgin bcoz of my condition. it has affected my relationship and I completely lost confidence in being a woman, I feel useless and completely worthless. I cannot speak about it to anyone, I've tried to reach out to some psychologist on Instagram but the therapy seems to be expensive which I cannot afford. Can I get some emotional support here on coto at least... can I talk to someone...?
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My mom said she hates looking at me as it reminds her of all the things she had to give up on. She has always been like this but I thought it's because it's her personality. Now that I am 18 I have come to realise that she was very young 16 or so when she got married and it was most likely forced. My dad refuses to speak on this matter. I feel so had for her, though she has spoken to me like this she was always extremely supportive in other things. What should I do?
Hi there! Hope you are doing okay. I can understand that the situation must be bad for you :( It’s totally unfair for your mom to blame you as this is in no way your fault. And also, it’s not your responsibility to convince her or make her like you. I feel you must have already tried that and now it would have just gotten exhausting. I feel you would definitely benefit from some social support. Spend time with your friends and find a support group. Talking to people going through the same thing helps. Seeking therapy is also not a bad idea if you are up for it! Take care 🩵
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This question a female asked me yesterday she is a virgin 32 year old and is dating a guy who has many sexual partners in the past. she was quite anxious that she is inexperienced and that she won't be able to be a great partner in bed. it's sad also to see how much pressure we take on ourselves I always say a relationship and even the sex life is based on communication, flexibility, and empathy also no..of sexual partners is in no way a criteria for someone being skilled in sex. one can be adept and skillful in sex with just one partner.
yes absolutely, it can be weird, gross, unpleasant. basically two bodies trying to experiment and finding a way out for pleasure. nothing is guaranteed, though if one partner is experienced she/he can take a lead and be a better one!
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I am Leena from Anand l am a housewife fully depending on husband but l am trying to find opportunity for work. can u.ll give ideas. Everyone says l am a good cook n manageable.
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want ask a personal question that in sexual or physical relationship is it OK to be non satisfied to in bed . but he love me a lot is it my excess earge or it's from his side lacking want to know is it a common issu or it's a rear thing
if u not satisfied then u cn use some other things to pamper urself..
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