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أهلا وسهلا، كلنا عارفين إن العلاقة بين الأم والبنت دي علاقة مش سهلة دايمًا. أحيانًا مشاعر زي الحب والغيرة والقوة والضعف كلها بتتلعب في دقيقتين. بس في الآخر، الأم دي مدرسة إذا أعددتها أعددت شعب طيب. والبنت، مش بس هي المستقبل، هي كمان الحاضر. لو انتي بنت، اتعلمي من قوة وحنية أمك، ولو انتي أم، علمي بنتك إزاي تكون ست قوية وراقية. العلاقة دي بينهم مش بس علاقة دم، دي علاقة روح وقلب وعقل. فلو فيه تحديات، عادي، ده اللي بيخلي العلاقة أقوى.

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ابني عنيد ، ابني عصبي ، ابني مش بيسمع الكلام ، ابني كذا و كذا و هكذا لماذا الكثير يركز على السلبيات و لا يري غيرها و حتى هذه السلبيات في الأصل بسبب الشاكي نفسه و هى الأم أو الأب و لم تقف عند حد الشكوى فقط بل تعدت ذلك بكثير حتى وصلت إلى العقاب ، فيسألون عن العقاب ، كيف أعاقبه ، هل هم يريدون مصلحة الطفل ؟ أظن أن الحقيقة لا ، و إن ادعوا أنهم يريدون مصلحته ، لماذا لا تأتي أم و تسأل : كيف أكافيء ابني بدلا من كيف أعاقب ابني ؟؟؟؟ كيف أمدح طفلي ؟؟ كيف أشكر طفلي ؟؟ كيف أحب ابني حبا حقيقيا لا مزيفا كما عند الكثير من الأمهات و الآباء ؟؟ كيف أقوى العلاقة بيني و بين ابني ؟؟ نريد أن نسمع مثل هذه الأسئلة نريد أن تكون عيوننا إيجابية ترى الشيء الإيجابي و لا ترى الشيء السلبي ، نريد تعلم مهارة التجاهل كن جميلا ترى الوجود جميلا أتدرون الفرق بين النحلة و الذبابة !!! أتدرون ما هو الفرق بين عين النحلة و عين الذبابة !!! النحلة تمتلك عينا حساسة لا ترى إلا الأزهار الجميلة والورود الرائعة ، ولا تحط إلا على ما تراه جميلا ورائعا لأن روحها جميلة و لا ترى القاذورات و الأشياء المستقذرة ، السؤال هنا : هل هي لا تراها حقيقة؟ الإجابة : لا ، هي تراها لكنها تتجاهلها فما النتيجة؟؟ يخرج منها العسل فالجميل الذي لا يري إلا الجميل لا يخرج منه إلا الجميل ، بعكس الذبابة التى ترى القاذورات و الأشياء المستقذرة و لا تتجاهلها و إنما تتعلق و تتشبث و تلتصق بها فما النتيجة ؟؟ تفسد و تزيد الأمر فسادا و استقذارا إذا ركزنا فقط على إيجابيات الأطفال و عززناها و تجاهلنا السلبيات ( و طبعا لا أقصد كل السلبيات و لكن هذا الأمر له استراتيجيات و طرق معينة و كيفيات معينة ، فكل على حسب) و لم نركز عليها و لا ننبه الطفل إليها ستصبح السلبيات ضئيلة جدا إلي أن تختفي نهائيا بدون أي عصبية أو صراخ أو أي ألم نفسي عند الأبوين و بخاصة الأم هو مش فيه دلوقتي ولادة بدون ألم ؟؟ فيه برده تعديل سلوك بدون ألم بس نطبق بجد #المدربة_غدير_صلاح_الدين

ابني عنيد ، ابني عصبي ، ابني مش بيسمع الكلام ، 
ابني كذا و كذا  و هكذا 
لماذا الكثير يركز على السلبيات و لا يري غيرها 
و حتى هذه السلبيات في الأصل  بسبب الشاكي نفسه و هى الأم أو الأب  و لم تقف عند حد الشكوى فقط بل تعدت ذلك بكثير  حتى وصلت إلى العقاب ،  فيسألون عن العقاب ،
كيف أعاقبه ،  هل هم يريدون مصلحة الطفل ؟
 أظن أن الحقيقة  لا ، و إن ادعوا أنهم يريدون مصلحته ،
لماذا لا تأتي أم و تسأل :
كيف أكافيء ابني  بدلا من  كيف أعاقب ابني ؟؟؟؟ 
كيف أمدح طفلي ؟؟ 
كيف أشكر طفلي ؟؟ 
كيف أحب ابني حبا حقيقيا  لا  مزيفا  كما عند الكثير من الأمهات و الآباء ؟؟
كيف أقوى العلاقة بيني و بين ابني ؟؟ 
نريد أن نسمع مثل هذه الأسئلة 
نريد أن تكون عيوننا إيجابية  ترى الشيء الإيجابي و لا ترى الشيء السلبي ، نريد تعلم مهارة التجاهل 
كن جميلا ترى الوجود جميلا 
أتدرون الفرق بين النحلة و الذبابة !!!
أتدرون ما هو الفرق بين عين النحلة و عين الذبابة !!! 
النحلة تمتلك عينا حساسة لا ترى إلا الأزهار الجميلة والورود الرائعة ، ولا تحط إلا على ما تراه جميلا ورائعا لأن روحها جميلة و لا ترى القاذورات و الأشياء المستقذرة ،
السؤال هنا :  هل هي لا  تراها حقيقة؟ 
الإجابة :  لا ،  هي تراها  لكنها تتجاهلها 
فما النتيجة؟؟ 
يخرج منها العسل
فالجميل الذي لا يري إلا الجميل  لا يخرج منه إلا الجميل 
، بعكس الذبابة التى ترى القاذورات و الأشياء المستقذرة و لا تتجاهلها و إنما  تتعلق و تتشبث و تلتصق بها
  فما النتيجة ؟؟ 
تفسد و تزيد الأمر فسادا و استقذارا 

إذا ركزنا  فقط على إيجابيات الأطفال و عززناها  و تجاهلنا  السلبيات ( و طبعا  لا  أقصد كل السلبيات و لكن هذا الأمر  له استراتيجيات و طرق معينة و كيفيات معينة ، فكل على حسب) 
و لم نركز عليها و لا ننبه الطفل إليها  ستصبح السلبيات ضئيلة جدا  إلي أن تختفي نهائيا  بدون  أي عصبية  أو صراخ أو أي ألم نفسي عند الأبوين و بخاصة الأم 
هو مش فيه دلوقتي ولادة بدون ألم ؟؟ 
فيه برده تعديل سلوك بدون ألم 
بس نطبق بجد

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