by BaharKalyoncuYücel on Dec 7, 2023
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İnsanın en yakını kendisidir ve insan en çok içindeki sesi duyar. Bu yüzden iç sesin şefkatli olması, sağlıklı olması çok önemli. Bu köşe senin kendiliğinle bağ kurman, zihnini anlaman, yaşama farklı bir pencereden bakman için burada. Bazen zorlanırız, bunalır, yıpranırız. İşte böyle anlarda minik bir kol değneği, güvenilir bir dost omuzu olması için farkındalık yolculuğu burada. Senin sana dönüşün, dönüşümün kutlu olsun cânım kadın ! 🌱
2. Bebek İkinci bebeğimizin bağlanma stili güvenli bağlanma stilidir cânım kadınlar. Bebeğin tüm tepkileri olması gerektiği gibiydi. Annenin varlığında huzurluydu, güvendeydi , annenin yokluğunda bir süre güvensiz hissetti ardından etrafı keşfetmeye başladı. Etrafı keşfetmeye başlaması bebeğin ayrışmayı başardığı anlamına gelir. Yani hem annenin varlığında huzurlu hem de annenin yokluğunda kendiliği ve çevre arasında ilişki kurabiliyor, muhteşem! Anne odaya tekrar geldiğinde küçük bir sitem yaptı, hakkıdır ama sonra hemen duygusunu düzenledi ve ağlamayı bıraktı. Bu duygusunu düzenleyebilme de çok kıymetli çünkü bebek bunu anneden öğreniyor. Eğer anne kendi duygusunu düzenleyebiliyorsa, bebek de düzenlemeyi öğrenir. Burada nasıl bir ebeveyn var ? Anne, istikrarlı. En önemli özelliği bu. Kızabilir, sinirlendiği şeyler olabilir ama bir öyle bir böyle davranmıyor. Tepkileri ebeveyn gibi, yetişkin gibi. Bebek onu zorladığında yetişkin gibi o zorluğu göğüsleyebiliyor. Bebek ne olursa olsun annenin orada olduğunu, küsmediğini, onu terk etmeyeceğini biliyor, işte güven budur. Peki bu bebeklerin büyüyünce nasıl ilişkileri olur? Herkes gibi bu kişiler de büyüdüklerinde toksik ilişki yaşayabilir ama diğerlerinden farklı olarak toksik ilişki içinde kalamazlar. Kendilik değerleri yüksektir. Uzun süreli ilişki yürütürler fakat ilişkileri olmadan da var olabilir, mutlu olabilirler. İlişkide bağlanmaları sağlıklıdır. Şüpheci değildirler, ilk kavgada gitmezler, ilişki için çaba sarf eder ama kendi sınırlarını da korurlar. #bağlanma #güvenli #sınırlar #ilişki #bebek #anne #çocuk #değerlilik #sevilebilirlik #yeterlilik #bowlby #bağlanmakuramı
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361d
・commented 361 days ago
İşte o ilk kaçası gelme durumu biraz kaçıngan bağlanma, ama farkındalık sahibi bir yetişkin olunca insan duruyor 😀
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366d
・commented 366 days ago
Belki de güvenli bağlanmıştıkta yaşarken mi şüpheci olduk kim bilir 🙈 Benim bı kaçasım geliyor sonra duruyorum.🤭
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