by Sandhya Pillai on May 3, 2023
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I am a single parent of a teenage daughter. I have been divorced since 2019 and single since 2017. I restarted my career at the age of 40 when I separated. I moved with my 10 year old kiddo to a new city with new lifestyle. Life was tough but with proper support and determination, I could turn around my life. I am still work in progress and healing from what I went through. So, I want to open this forum for all single women who need support, love and a space of non-judgmental sharing. Let us build a community of understanding and togetherness. YOU ARE NOT ALONE ANYMORE(YANAA) Cheers, Sandhyaa S Pillai
I recently got out of an abusive marriage. I don't regret my decision but the only thing that is disturbing me is my child. I want to support them fully but I don't know how to fill the gap of their father. How do I ensure my children feel supported and loved during and after a divorce? @Singleparent Diaries 💕
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I don't think we can fill the gap of a father. It could be taxing if we try to play both the roles. They feel loved and cared for when we listen to them, show them the strength that we will work this out.Most children love to see strong moms. Having said that, having more open conversations with them helps you emote too and they see the softer version of you too. Let them know their life would be a bit different but definitely more healthy as they are not in an abusive environment. Join single parents communities in your city to meet more alike families.
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