is it normal for me to have a higher sex drive than my male partner? i am married and i often find myself begging for sex to my husband who seems to have very little sex drive. we are in our 30s with no children but have been in a relationship since we were 17. he wasn't like this initially but in the last 5 years, his sex drive has declined significantly. we have a long distance relationship but even when we meet, we have sex less than once a week and it is mostly i who initiates. because of this, i have started feeling inadequate and embarassed. i feel like a begger everytime i initiate sex and feel like my husband is doing it reluctantly. what do i do? do i have a higher sex drive? or is it normal in relationships?

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darth_divader asked 239 days ago

is it normal for me to have a higher sex drive than my male partner? i am married and i often find myself begging for sex to my husband who seems to have very little sex drive. we are in our 30s with no children but have been in a relationship since we were 17. he wasn't like this initially but in the last 5 years, his sex drive has declined significantly. we have a long distance relationship but even when we meet, we have sex less than once a week and it is mostly i who initiates. because of this, i have started feeling inadequate and embarassed. i feel like a begger everytime i initiate sex and feel like my husband is doing it reluctantly. what do i do? do i have a higher sex drive? or is it normal in relationships?

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Actually for males, girlfriend cum wife is like a trophy. Once they achieve it, they don't feel to do anything extra for that. So you have to make him thrive for that. Till that time, explore yourself for self love. Find how you can get pleasure with clitoral stimulation and other things like sex toys. When your partner feels that he is no more important to you and you are happy yourself, then he will try to do anything for you. So just go away from him for sometime. Sometime silence speak louder. Also when he starts initiating, you can try teasing him. This will add special tadka to your bore sex life. Though you try all these and still If this is happening every time, it's quite possible that your partner need some counseling and treatment as he is low on desire. Then take him to any reputed Sexologist. Don't worry, It's completely treatable.

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