by DrNikita_DSexologist on Nov 10, 2022
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hello, i am a virgin and as usual i am also afraid for my first time, i dont have any partner right now but one of my friend is ready for physical intimitation, should i go for it, i want it and i dont also because i am confused and somewhere i feel that i should do it with my love only which i dont have right now, what should i do and what things need to be worried about for my first time and what is the good age to do it, can anyone suggest.
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Sex is not for trial and error dear. It's a emotional need of any teenage or above person. You have such feelings when you meet someone special, those feelings will automatically take you to next step whenever it should happen. And about your so called friend, you are not a baby doll to try by him. Those who tell any girl be physical or we will break up are just using them for their physical need. Once they use you, they will throw you out of their life and you will be shattered into pieces. it's not like that,If you do not hurry, you will miss the train! Maybe he is not your man! Keep searching from heart, in coming future you will definitely get your prince. Till then just keep yourself sustained. So Don't hurry!
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yes we have talked about the protections but may be he does not know some things because he is also a virgin. and yes I feel may be my feelings can be changes towards him and he will not feel the same, and I am ready to wait to find a good partner i am not that much eager to have sex, byt it is getting hard to say no to him I am not able to make him understand my point of view qmd I am thinking about it becuqse i dont want to lose what we have now, becuase i think may be he will not talk to me more if i dont say yes to him, i dont know what to do
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Hi there, I hope you are well. It's good to see that you want to discover the other side of life :) However, I'd suggest that don't do anything in haste simply because you want to do it. Also, if you are 21-22yrs of age, then having these feelings & the need to have intercourse is normal. Avoid it before this age. Moreover, here are a few things that I'd like to point out - - Do you trust your friend completely? - In case, things don't go as planned, will it affect your friendship ? - Have you spoken to him about your limitations, and protection? - Are you comfortable with having casual sex ? - What if you fall in love , and he doesn't or he falls in love with you, and you don't ? - Can you wait until you find a partner who loves you and whom you love ? - What if this becomes a regular thing ? Please do consider these questions, and also, you may not be able to see your friend in the same light, anymore, things may change from his or your end :) hence, give it a thorough thought.
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