Heard my cousin brother ask my brother about her ‘item’. Confused right?? The item he was referring to was Girlfriend. He was asking my brother abt his girlfriend. Men think it is fun to refer to women this way and call them by these cheap nicknames or code words that they keep. I believe they don’t have guts to call their womens by their own names. Women should be called by their names not item, chammak challo, etc. We have names given to us by God and our parents and those who don’t wish to accept that can move on. Right girls?? Have you ever experienced such an incident?? What should a women do to stop being referred by these names?? #urbanchudails

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marwa asked 214 days ago

Heard my cousin brother ask my brother about her ‘item’. Confused right?? The item he was referring to was Girlfriend. He was asking my brother abt his girlfriend. Men think it is fun to refer to women this way and call them by these cheap nicknames or code words that they keep. I believe they don’t have guts to call their womens by their own names. Women should be called by their names not item, chammak challo, etc. We have names given to us by God and our parents and those who don’t wish to accept that can move on. Right girls?? Have you ever experienced such an incident?? What should a women do to stop being referred by these names?? #urbanchudails

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Mehndi/Henna・answered 214 days ago

Objectifying women for entertainment is normal in the world we are in so men think its ok to call women item or maal or anything else.. it is so sub consciously embedded in the minds of men that they don’t see anything wrong in it.. i think bringing this up with them is important to make them see the problem in calling women such names. If not all some men will surely understand the issue with this

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I have not like personally experienced this. However I have also seen men referring to their gf as teri bandi or item. even in movies they use such words.

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