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I am in process of a divorce and things haven’t been easy going for me or my family … I was told by my friends to join a dating app because I felt alone and needed someone to talk to. Initially I got on to a dating app only to distract myself and speak to people who would not judge me or question me. Soon after I started talking to this person who showed interest in me. I also started talking to him freely - little did I know it was my husband who tried to use a different id and started recording these messages for divorce purposes. I was shocked and even told him that he didn’t have to do this if he was anyways getting divorced . I also gave him my reason of doing so , joining a dating app. What should I do now Will the court believe me I am feeling so helpless

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Hang in there girl. Disgusting what your husband did

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Be open and honest with your attorney about the circumstances surrounding your use of the dating app. This will enable them to provide accurate and effective advice tailored to your situation. Hope it works out for you girl!! ❤️

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The context in which the conversations took place may also be relevant. If you were using the dating app as a coping mechanism to deal with the emotional stress of the divorce, this context may be taken into account by the court.

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