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by KarishmaSingh on Jul 17, 2023

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My partner and I used to have a crazy hot sex life, but lately, initiating feels like a chore. Frustrated and worried I'm broken. Is the spark fading or is there something else going on? @Sexologist_DrKalps

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After some years in an intimate relationship, both partners start feeling low on desire. Because We start taking each other for granted. Our stress, kids responsibility and other family matters become our priority. We stop doing anything romantic for our partner. Remember each relationship require special efforts to keep the spark alive. Still you can try to take your sex life on track: Start taking some time for you both to interact daily. Start trying other forms of intimacy like curdling, holding hands,etc. Reduce screentime and take a walk while chatting. Sex should not be limited to your bedroom only. You can still tell your partner that you love him by teasing/touching erogenically. Start enjoying achievements and shearing burden of stress. Always have open discussion about what you want in sex. Try new positions, oral sex, mutual masturbation etc to remove the boredom of your sex life. Start dating each other again. Go on vacation regularly.

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mam mara divorce hpjage kya nahi

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