The Phoenix Tribe

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What if there has been no waste?? If the 4 years have been miserable, why put in more time to still get unfulfilling results? What is the 4 yrs, taught you more about yourself and now you know exactly what you need. If your partner is not giving it to you, maybe their sole purpose was just to teach you that. Time to make different choices

Think of some examples of where you have done well, at work, personal life, in school. I am sure you have many great examples of these.. Remember, how you made that happen. It’s still in you! Right now, with the limited info you have given me, you seem to be just self sabotaging. When you think back on your achievements, find some affirmation of yourself from that, and repeat it everyday.

Set clear boundaries, limit contact with the person, focus on self-care and personal growth, seek support from friends or a therapist, and remind yourself of your worth and the importance of your own well-being.

Yes therapy and coaching helps a lot only if you are committed to finding the solution.

When things come suddenly to you out of the blue, it’s called triggers. Usually triggers are emotions that we have not fully processed. All emotions are good for us and important to process. When it happens, name the emotion, note what triggered it. There is something there that needs to be processed. I can help you with this. To get through the day, just focus on 1 things at a time. Allow the pressure of multi-tasking to fade away. It’s important for your nervous system to relax first!

First of all, there is no such thing as Balance in life! There is only Harmony. Everyday, if you expect to do everything in its allotted time, when will you rest? There will be some days, where you can focus on yourself and some days where work gets more. Figure out what that Harmony is. Make time for what matters to you. Use your calendar to fill in personal activities too. Recognize which activity takes most of your time. Usually people realize that it is scrolling on their phone that takes so much of their time in the day. Become very intentional about what you do. Remember, any kind of change requires consistency. But show kindness to yourself. If you give yourself a hard time everytime you don’t feel you have achieved harmony, it takes longer. Keep a kindness journal and write about how kind you have been to yourself. The better you feel, the more committed you are. If you guilt yourself into a commitment then you are heading for a nervous breakdown.

STOP IT! You are overthinking everything, over analyzing everything! The first step is to become aware and STOP it! These are repressed & suppressed thoughts & emotions coming up. There is a way to listen to it and let it go. MSG me privately and we can get into it.

The best person to tell you when it’s time to switch, is you! If you are feeling it, then do it. I’m sure your current therapist is lovely! Maybe you just need something different. That’s ok, she already knows this and will understand. Different approaches work for different people, sometimes you have to date many therapists to find the one that suits you. If you like, we can get on a 30 min free session where I can give you more advice. MSG me privately.

Yes it is ok to feel these fluctuations! We are emotional beings, we have different needs and wants. Knowing what you need from the relationship and how you like to feel connected, helps you to communicate that better. Remember, it’s not always about you giving to the relationship, it’s also about receiving. Believing what you see in your relationship is important too. If women don’t feel safe with their partner, seen or heard.. there is no smooth or loving relationship to discuss.

Resilience is indeed a very nice quality that one should absolutely have. ❤️👠

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