I had been dealing with narcissistic spouse since 20 years. This was decoded by a psychiatrist a few years back. Because of children and been unable to explain my situation to anyone or was not possible to move away from him. Now the effect of the abuse is seen on my children. They are partially aware and partially in denial mode to understand the same. Hope should I deal with the situation?

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Amanvir Kaur asked 404 days ago

I had been dealing with narcissistic spouse since 20 years. This was decoded by a psychiatrist a few years back. Because of children and been unable to explain my situation to anyone or was not possible to move away from him. Now the effect of the abuse is seen on my children. They are partially aware and partially in denial mode to understand the same. Hope should I deal with the situation?

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Anonymous

・answered 378 days ago

Dealing with a narcissistic spouse for two decades is undoubtedly challenging. It's commendable that you've sought professional help and are concerned about your children's well-being. It might be helpful to seek support from a therapist who specializes in family dynamics and can help your children navigate their feelings. Additionally, focusing on self-care and setting boundaries with your spouse can be crucial for your own mental health.

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・answered 378 days ago

Your situation is totally understandable. It’s good that you had sought psychiatric help in the past. I can imagine how children must be a binding factor in the relationship. It’s very common. I feel seeking therapy will be helpful and setting some boundaries with your spouse is also crucial. Spend more time with your children and make sure you explore your own values as well!

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Anonymous

・answered 374 days ago

You should be talking to your children more often about their feelings and slowly pull them out of this denial mode and make them see the reality

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Anonymous

・answered 372 days ago

u should leave him probably

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