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by Sandhya Pillai on May 3, 2023

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I am a single parent of a teenage daughter. I have been divorced since 2019 and single since 2017. I restarted my career at the age of 40 when I separated. I moved with my 10 year old kiddo to a new city with new lifestyle. Life was tough but with proper support and determination, I could turn around my life. I am still work in progress and healing from what I went through. So, I want to open this forum for all single women who need support, love and a space of non-judgmental sharing. Let us build a community of understanding and togetherness. YOU ARE NOT ALONE ANYMORE(YANAA) Cheers, Sandhyaa S Pillai

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Me and my husband have separated because we knew that it didnt work for us. we tried staying together for 5 years only for the sake of our child. But now we couldn't deal with each other. However we have decided that we will not let it effect our son. How can I co-parent effectively with my former partner after divorce? @Singleparent Diaries 💕

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I am happy to hear you took a strong decision of co-parenting. Co- parenting is healthy and effective if we set the rules and goals from the beginning. Pls have a clear talk with your ex about what you both want for your child and its future. Think of few activities you want to do every month to ensure that child gets the best of both. especially no bitching, complaining, and whining about the other partner in front of the child. Let the child grow and mature to understand the truth. Hope it helps.

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