i have just entered into a relationship with my bf. i am really happy and excited about it. You know that feeling you get of first love going on dates, giving surprise gifts etc. However apart from this i also want to add some spice to my sex life. i tend to get really scary ideas about it. im afraid that my bf will think bad of me. What should I do if my sexual fantasies scare me?

by aabha_rawattt on Jun 22, 2023

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theintrovertgirl asked 28 days ago

i have just entered into a relationship with my bf. i am really happy and excited about it. You know that feeling you get of first love going on dates, giving surprise gifts etc. However apart from this i also want to add some spice to my sex life. i tend to get really scary ideas about it. im afraid that my bf will think bad of me. What should I do if my sexual fantasies scare me?

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Anonymous

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trying discussing it with your partner. consult a sexologist if u face any sex issues

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intimacycoachsampadafotedar

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Hey! Hope you are doing well. I feel that communication is an essential part of any relationship and you can definitely communicate your ideas to your boyfriend in an assertive manner. I also encourage you to explore your likes and dislikes and engage in self pleasure to understand your preferences better. If your sexual fantasies are scaring you, it’s always a good idea to talk about them to your partner and see what he thinks about it. Let me know If you want to connect with me to discuss this in further detail!

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PsychologistMadhurima_Ghosh

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Having clarity about your feelings and urges and having mutual understanding will be helpful.You can have a discussion with your partner.You can take professional help for discussing about your fantasies in detail.

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