by Zanzanil Patel on Jun 22, 2023
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it's Aishwarya here.Lately I've been picking up on some potentially abusive vibes from my live-in partner, and it's really starting to mess with my head and safety. I'm just not sure exactly what qualifies as abuse beyond the obvious physical stuff. Like is it abusive if they constantly put me down or try to control what I do? Or if they blow up over little things and make me walk on eggshells? I don't want to overreact, but I also don't want to be naive about emotional manipulation. How do i identify it? @Zanzanil
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190d
・answered 190 days ago
So abuse is not just physical it can also be emotional or psychological. Whatever you have stated above is abuse and you should definitely not stay with him anymore. You should have left him by now. He has no right to abuse you. If you want then you can file a case on him.
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・answered 189 days ago
abuse is when they want you to be okay with something they won't be, if they were the receiver. abuse is when the damage they cause is more than the love they give what you have mentioned is definitely emotional and mental abuse. not being able to see this clearly or giving them benefit of doubt is because of the trauma bonding.
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