I don't feel that I am able to satisfy my partner in bed. though when i ask him he says everything is ok but i constantly feel anxious that our sex life is not interesting. i am not sure where the insecurity is creeping in from.

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prachibhardwaj asked 412 days ago

I don't feel that I am able to satisfy my partner in bed. though when i ask him he says everything is ok but i constantly feel anxious that our sex life is not interesting. i am not sure where the insecurity is creeping in from.

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・answered 403 days ago

3)Don't restrict yourselves to intercourse. Prolong foreplay and explore new pleasure zones. If you both are open to oral sex, I would highly recommend you to explore that! You can include edibles like chocolates, whipped cream externally. please ensure that you don't insert any edible inside your vaginal hole as it can lead to yeast infections. Wash and pee after the session to maintain hygiene and flush out any remnants. 4) Incase you feel it's still lacking or you need help consider couple sex counseling. You can check out Sassiest.in for nonjudgemental and sex positive doctors and experts. Lastly have fun! Hope this helps💜

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・answered 403 days ago

hi there! It's very natural to feel insecure about your sex life. Especially if your perception/expectations about pleasure comes from what you see in pornography,movies,etc. Please understand that pornography is majorly entertainment and the reactions/techniques they show are exaggerated. It also puts undue pressure on how one's body should look like. Real intimacy is nothing like what they show here. Having said that, if you still feel that you would like to enhance your sex life, you can try the following: 1) Talk about fantasies/role plays/kinks you and your partner would like to explore. Read more about it and understand how you can explore these safely by establishing boundaries and safe words. 2)Consider including sex toys, handcuffs,blindfolds,etc to explore and spice things up. You can check out www.sassiest.in for high quality and discrete products.

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・answered 403 days ago

Look for a true connection and being then and there, not getting distracted or pretending, just connecting with the person that you love. If you feel nervous sometimes a previous short meditation or visualization can help and put you in the right mood.

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akshathavishal

・answered 408 days ago

you need to introspect why you feel that, also stop thinking so much, just relax

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