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Hallo Everyone.. I am Enna.. My Bf is too much horny. Everyday he is doing sex. and i love this bcz he is trying different type of sex but not horny. Always romantic sex. but i am tired and in night I am trying to tell him don't do but his romantic moment always stop me. please suggest me what I will do.. sometimes I am thinking to share my bf with my other girls friend bcz sometimes I am feeling tired.

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Hi Enna, Thankyou for sharing your concern. It's important for both of you to understand that enthusiastic consent for all sexual activities is the basics of a healthy sex life. Neither partner should feel pressurized to do this. If it is the 'romantic sex' that's become monotonous, i.e you are not turned on by it, you can have a conversation about experimenting with toys, fantasies, role playing and kinks. Maybe some changes in the routine will increase your libido (desire to have sex). If it's the frequency that troubling you, please talk to your partner and help him understand that it's not something you are enjoying, but rather are feeling pressurized into giving in because you don't want to ruin the moment. Have an honest, non-confrontational conversation and hear his thoughts. Maybe your partner feels he needs to 'convince' you to get in the mood. Tell him how it's affecting you.

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It's important to have open communication with him. Doing sex daily is not bothering you, it's the way he want is. But you should tell him this by your own mouth dear. In any intimate relationship, you should consider the other partner's consent, preferences & requirements too. Otherwise in long run, you will loose interest in sex and also in your partner. Also ask him is their any specific reason? Any sexual problem he have? So he is doing only romance and don't help you reach arousal/orgasm? After he set you on fire, but doesn't do penetrative sex, it irritates you so much that gradually decreases your libido. Also Try to convince your partner to indulge in his hobbies & work to reduce his feelings. There are certain medical conditions like menia, schizophrenia or even in case of some brain tumors also abnormal increase in libido is seen. So also check for such possibilities. Go to a Sexologist with him and they can help you by counseling & or to some extent by giving medicines

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@Sexologist_DrKalps can you help out here?

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Hi there! Hope you are doing well. As a therapist, I’d like to let you know that consent matters. Just because he is expressing sex in a romantic way, doesn’t mean you should always be pressurised to do it. Sex is fun only if there’s consent and mood from all parties. Have an open and assertive communication. Tell him that you feel “pressurised”, rather than “convinced”: there’s a difference between the two. If the sex is getting monotonous, you can also try experimenting with toys and positions. Just make sure you are being safe. Take care 🩵

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