@Sexologist_DrKalps Hey!! I'm in a relationship with my boyfriend and I've not have sex till now. We've had my first sex and it was not long enough the first time. I don't how to tell my man about this problem of mine. I'm a bit awkward about it. Can I myself do anything to increase his sex drive and timing ???

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AshMegha asked 107 days ago

@Sexologist_DrKalps Hey!! I'm in a relationship with my boyfriend and I've not have sex till now. We've had my first sex and it was not long enough the first time. I don't how to tell my man about this problem of mine. I'm a bit awkward about it. Can I myself do anything to increase his sex drive and timing ???

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Time of sex actually can get affected by intensity of desire, surroundings, other factors like stress, etc. So just by doing once, you can't judge anyone. Also remember penetrative sex lasts for 5-15 minutes on average & still can satisfy Only 35% of woman. Females take time to set on fire, so males need to take extra efforts to fulfill her desire. He can try different forms of sex during foreplay like oral sex, mutual masturbation etc. You can have open discussion with your partner about your expectations and you can tell him to try other forms of sex also to fill in the gaps. He loves you so he will understand you. To increase his time, actually you can tell your partner to do Kegals to control pelvic floor muscles. This will help to do start - stop method to increase Be creative & a bit consistent while doing sex. Sex with big gaps can also make him ejaculate early. Try different positions also. If still his time is less, then you can consult with Sexologist for his treatment.

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you should definitely have a talk about it. Communicatiom is the key to every successful.

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